From The Law of Attraction to every self-help or self-improvement thought ever put to paper by a pen or pecked from a keyboard by wiser men than I, we can all agree that man is a result of his thoughts. Ralph Waldo Emerson stated that “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
All the greatest literary motivators of our time have stated that thoughts become things, but the deeper paradigm that seems to be overlooked is this, that emotions become thoughts. Emotions become thoughts, that become things, behaviors in particular.
We often become so caught up in the rat race of life and things out of our control that we fail to see just how much we are in control of. If we would only change the energy that we send out into the world we could very feasibly change those unwanted things that we find coming back to us. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, so if your’e looking for different results in your life then you might find it wise to eliminate the following behaviors and habits from your life:
1. Having a victim mentality
Of all the categories that fall under ‘common sense’, a sense of victimization is not one of them. The subconscious mind works like an inner defense attorney, always assuring you that you can do no wrong and every bad thing that happens in your life is the result of someone else. But convincing yourself that you have no power over your life or situation is a thought process that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and will leave you stuck in the mud for as long as you live. Positive results and outcomes are NEVER the result of complaining and self victimization. Make a resolution to stop complaining all together and take control of your life. You are not a victim of your circumstances, you are a product of your decisions. [repeat that last line ten times, right now]
2. Inability to Let go
From the weakest to the strongest of the human race, one of the most difficult tasks for people of all levels of intestinal fortitude to do is let go. Letting go of anger, letting go of guilt, letting go of sadness or letting go of comforts and gratifications. Change is seldom easy, but more often than not necessary for growth. Our sorrow, guilt, anger, shame and everything in between becomes shackles that bind us to the paradigms and circumstances we so desperately cry out to escape. The healthiest path will always be to free yourself from the negative emotions that bind you. It may feel safe behind a wall of grudge, resentment, and complacency, but walls only keep you trapped in, while failing to keep out all that you fear.
3. Comparing yourself to everyone else
Envy is one of the seven deadly sins for a reason. Like a dog that never stops growing, the intoxicating influence of envy will consume you right down to your soul. Stop counting other people’s blessing and start counting your own. You are where you are in life because of you [see number 1] , and you are in competition with nobody other than yourself. Trust your journey and make the most out of it. When we focus on others or compare ourselves to others, we fall back into the victim mentality of focusing on the things that we cannot change and feeling completely powerless in our own lives. Focus only on things that you CAN change, and you will find the ability to change more things than you ever thought you could before. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will start to change.
4. Being a perfectionist
In the ever competitive and often highly fabricated digital age, it is all too common to chase perfection. Wether it be perfection in relationships, the workplace, fitness or aesthetics, our endless pursuit of perfection all too often turns out to be a wild goose chase. Humans are by nature imperfect and irrational creatures. Only a few lobes of the brain and some technological advances separate us from the cavemen, and compared to animals we can’t see very well, we get sick very easily, we cant run fast and 5 degrees up or down internally and well..we freeze or melt to death. So why do we try to be so fucking perfect? We often pass up the opportunity for true happiness because our unreasonable expectations. We search for and expect the perfect house, the perfect partner, the perfect job, when in reality no such thing exists. We say “If I only had/did ___, then I’d be happy. But true happiness lies in the pursuit and journey, and such a journey will be riddled with imperfections and mistakes 110% of the time. So cut yourself a little slack.